After a great Thanksgiving with my friends and family and being reminded what I am thankful for, I began to wonder if most people actually appreciate what they have, who they are, as well as the people in their lives. It seems as if modern day Thanksgiving has come to mean gluttony, football, and waiting in line at your favorite store for a chance to snag the best new THINGS from some of the richest companies in the world. Anyone see a problem with this?
‘THINGS’ cannot buy happiness.
A beautiful significant other, the newest iPhone, the latest Mercedes Benz, a 10,000 sqft mansion, vacations around the world….
These things are all amenities of the modern world that we can love, appreciate and experience but are they the cause of pure long lasting happiness?
So What Exactly is Happiness?
In THIS PBS.org article Martin Seligman, one of the leading researchers in positive psychology and author of Authentic Happiness, describes happiness as having three parts: pleasure, engagement, and meaning. Pleasure is the “feel good” part of happiness. Engagement refers to living a “good life” of work, family, friends, and hobbies. Meaning refers to using our strengths to contribute to a larger purpose. Seligman says that all three are important, but that of the three, engagement and meaning make the most difference to living a happy life.
I personally find long lasting happiness in helping others. Whether it’s as simple as just listening, giving advice when needed, teaching someone something new, growing self worth, cooking meals, taking out the trash, helping them financially, taking whatever burden that someone has and finding a solution to get rid of it to the extent that such joy is created. That’s a portion of what I consider My Purpose here on Earth.
Helping my parents, grandparents, clients, friends and extended family in an effort to make their life better, easier, more fulfilling….that’s why I strive for.
Sure, I love new technology, gadgets, clothes, cars and houses just as much as most people. But I don’t let those things define my happiness. I’m not looking for a flash in the pan kind of happiness. Becoming the kind of person you want to be, now that’s True Happiness.
Remember Be A Servant.
– Adam Walker
The King of The City